42. The Principles of Treating People With Fairness
1. You must treat all people, matters and things according to God’s words and the truth. Only treating people in accordance with the principles of the truth conforms to God’s will;
2. Treat the strengths and defects of others correctly, do not make excessive demands of others and don’t force people to do what is beyond their capabilities. Do not think too highly of others or belittle others;
3. Have a loving heart for God’s chosen people, do not be swayed by emotions for others and do not harbor prejudices, and do not delimit others by your own self-will, but view others with an eye for development;
4. You must treat others and handle problems in accordance with the essence of different kinds of people. Treat good people who transgress with a loving heart, and hate and abandon evil people.
Relevant Words of God:
What does God’s word require as the principle for treating others? Love what God loves, hate what God hates. That is, the people loved by God who truly pursue the truth and who carry out God’s will, are the people you should love. Those who don’t carry out God’s will, hate God, disobey God, and are despised by God, are people we should despise and reject. That’s what God’s word requires. If our parents don’t believe in God, then they hate God. If they hate God, God will of course despise them. If we are asked to despise them, can we despise them? If they can resist God and can curse God, then they are surely loathed by God and cursed by God. Under these circumstances, if your parents don’t obstruct you from believing in God, or if your parents go to the extent of obstructing you from believing in God, how will you treat them? You should act in accordance with the requirement of God’s word: “Love what God loves, hate what God hates.” … These words cut straight to the point, but people are often unable to appreciate their true meaning.
from “Knowing Yourself Requires Knowing Your Deep-rooted Thoughts and Views” in Records of Christ’s Talks
Don’t be self-righteous; take the strengths of others and use them to offset your own deficiencies, watch how others live by God’s words and see whether or not their lives, actions and speech is worth learning from. If you regard others as less than you then you are self-righteous, self-conceited and are of benefit to no one.
from “The Twenty-second Utterance” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
Regardless of whether you are a younger or an older brother or sister, you know the function you ought to perform. Those in their youth are not arrogant; those who are older are not passive and do not regress. And they are able to use each other’s strengths to make up for their weak points, and they are able to serve one another without any prejudice. A friendship bridge is built between younger and older brothers and sisters. Because of God’s love you are able to better understand one another. Younger brothers and sisters do not look down on older brothers and sisters, and the older brothers and sisters are not self-righteous. Is this not a harmonious partnership? If you all have this resolve, then the will of God will certainly be accomplished in your generation.
from “On Everyone Performing Their Function” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
This way, these relationships aren’t established on the flesh, but on the foundation of God’s love. There are almost no interactions based on the flesh, but in the spirit there is fellowship as well as love, comfort, and provision for one another. This is all done on the foundation of a heart that satisfies God. These relationships aren’t maintained by relying on a human philosophy of life, but they are formed very naturally through the burden for God. They don’t require human effort—they are practiced through the principles of the word of God. … A proper relationship between people is established on the foundation of giving their heart to God; it is not achieved through human effort. Without God, relationships between people are merely relationships of the flesh. They are not proper, but are indulgent of lust—they are relationships that God detests, that He loathes. If you say that your spirit has been moved, but you always want to have fellowship with people who appeal to you, with whoever you think highly of, and if there is another seeker who does not appeal to you, who you hold a bias against and will not engage with, this is more proof that you are an emotional person and you do not have a proper relationship with God at all. You are attempting to deceive God and cover up your own ugliness. Even if you can share some understanding but you carry wrong intentions, everything you do is good only by human standards. God will not praise you—you are acting according to the flesh, not according to God’s burden. If you are able to quiet your heart in front of God and have proper interactions with all those who love God, only then are you fit for God’s use. This way, no matter how you associate with others, it will not be according to a life philosophy, but it will be living in front of God, considerate of His burden.
from “It Is Very Important to Establish a Proper Relationship With God” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
Those who seek and those who do not seek are now two different types of people, and they are two types of people with two different destinations. Those who pursue knowledge of the truth and practice the truth are the people whom God will save. Those who do not know the true way are demons and enemies; they are the descendants of the archangel and will be destroyed. … Those who believe but do not practice the truth, those who do not believe in God incarnate, and those who do not at all believe in God’s existence will be destroyed. Anyone who is able to remain is a person who has undergone the bitterness of refinement and stood firm; this is a person who has truly undergone trials. Anyone who does not recognize God is an enemy; that is, anyone within or without this stream who does not recognize God incarnate is an antichrist! Who is Satan, who are demons, and who are God’s enemies if not resisters who do not believe in God? Are they not those people who are disobedient to God? Are they not those people who verbally claim to believe yet lack truth? Are they not those people who only pursue the obtaining of blessings yet cannot bear witness for God? … The standard by which man judges man is based on his behavior; one whose conduct is good is a righteous person, and one whose conduct is abominable is wicked. The standard by which God judges man is based on whether one’s essence obeys Him; one who obeys God is a righteous person, and one who does not obey God is an enemy and a wicked person, regardless of whether this person’s behavior is good or bad, and regardless of whether this person’s speech is correct or incorrect.
from “God and Man Will Enter Into Rest Together” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
With regard to people’s conditions, some ever resisted, some rebelled, others spoke words of complaint, engaged in misconduct, committed acts against the church or did things that damaged the family of God. Their outcomes will be determined with reference to their nature and the full breadth of their behavior. Some people are wicked, some are foolish, some are silly, and some are animals. People are all different. Some wicked people are possessed by evil spirits, while others are the messengers of the devil Satan. With regard to their natures, some are particularly sinister, some are particularly deceitful, some are especially greedy for money, while others are sexually promiscuous. Every person’s behavior is different, so each person should be viewed comprehensively according to their personal nature and behavior … when I hear of such things as people resisting or rebelling, I seem to get very angry, but then, when I consider man’s instincts, I deal with it differently. Therefore, any work done by God is well measured. God knows what to do and how to do it. For those things people cannot do instinctually, He will certainly not require them to do. God deals with each person according to the background at the time, the actual situation, people’s actions, performance and expressions, and the environment and context people are in. God will never wrong anyone. This is the righteousness of God.
from “What Kind of People Will Be Punished” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
The Man’s Fellowship:
We should treat our brothers and sisters as members of the family of God. We should display acceptance, patience and love. We should not deceive and hold prejudices, but treat everyone equally and fairly. If there is a brother or sister who says some deceitful words to you, and attempts to cheat you, you may begin to hate that person. In this case, how should you treat such a person? Take this matter before God and pray to God about it. How can you treat the person in a way that conforms with God’s will? What manner of treatment is in accordance with truth? You then treat the person in this way. If, in your heart, you don’t want to, if you have hate, and regard the person as an enemy, go before God again and pray earnestly, asking: Why am I unable to treat this person with truth, and why can I not put truth into practice? Deal with your own corruption before God, and perhaps the Holy Spirit will enlighten you, and help you to understand a truth. Ultimately you will put down prejudice and stop bearing grudges. Isn’t this the correct way to deal with this? This is precisely how to practice your own personal entry into life.
from “How to Serve in Accordance With God’s Will and the Prerequisites That Those Who Serve God Must Meet” in Sermons and Fellowship on Entry Into Life (II)
Be able to approach others properly. That is, don’t look up to them, but don’t look down on them. Whether another person is foolish or intelligent, if they are of high or low caliber, if they are rich or poor, you should not be biased and rely on emotions. Don’t force your own preferences on others and particularly do not force your own dislikes on others. This is not forcing someone into something they don’t want to do. When doing things do not just look at yourself; you must also look at the other person and learn more about how to be considerate of others so that others may benefit. … Don’t set your expectations of others too high, and do not look to gain any particular benefits from another person. … If someone treats you benevolently you should seek to repay that, and if someone treats you with love, you should particularly repay them with love. As for reason, learn how to respect others, and in spite of whatever faults or shortcomings they have, absolutely do not make fun of them or belittle them. Additionally, do not harbor improper intentions for anyone, but learn to respect others. You particularly cannot take advantage of anyone in the slightest.
from “from the fellowship from the above
Does this sort of thinking exist in your hearts? When you think of someone, you first think of their weaknesses, and first think of the ways in which they are corrupt. Is it right? If you go on thinking this way, you will never be able to get along with others normally. When you think of someone, you should first consider whether or not they truly believe in God, and what strengths they have. If this person can accept the truth, and if you speak the truth to him for real, he will accept it without the least bit of resentment. This is a strong point. This is a person who is magnanimous. He can be tolerant. If you speak the truth, he can deal with it correctly. This is a person who pursues truth. This is an honest person. If this person truly has a shortcoming that you detect, and if you don’t point it out to him as it is something that he otherwise would not be able to see, he would blame you later on. If you point it out to him, not only will he not hate you, he will even thank you. This is a person who genuinely pursues truth. This is a person who really and truly pursues salvation in his belief in God. He is a person who is willing to be a good person, a person who walks the path of real human life. This kind of person therefore has a particular strength. Though he may have a prejudice against someone for a period of time, or if somebody harms him, he may be hateful and envious toward that person for a little while, yet it is only temporary. After some time passes, he does some soul-searching and sees himself clearly, and even hates himself, and curses himself. He is even able to make a formal apology to the other person. Hence there is nothing wrong with this kind of person. This is nothing other than true belief in God. He is able to forgive us, so we must also be able to forgive him. Though he might not forgive us due to some short-lived weakness, and may even hate us, we should also forgive this person in our hearts. If you are unable to forgive people, you will be unable to get along with others. Also, if someone does some bad things to you, or says some judgmental words about you, you must give people a chance to repent and change. Would you dare to say that the person will always act this way? Would they go on acting corruptly in this way forever? If you were to affirm such a thing with finality, you, too, would be judging someone. Though he judges you, hates you, and is dissatisfied with you today, he genuinely believes in God, however, and desires to pursue truth. It won’t be long, therefore, before this corrupt aspect of him begins to change, and disappear. This is the way we must see the issue, we must see issues with a vision for growth. We must not see a person’s weakness, then condemn him forever, saying that the person will be this way lifelong, that he is this sort of person. To do this would be judging people. This action of yours would be to define other people! In saving people, God has not spoken this way, saying, evidently humans are corrupted to this extent, it is pointless to save them. This would be the end of the human race. Even God does not see it this way. So we are all pursuing truth now. We all desire to pursue truth, and we believe that, at a minimum, if we keep on with our pursuit, within a few years, we will certainly be able to change somewhat, and ultimately be completely able to achieve change of disposition and be perfected by God. You all have this kind of faith, don’t you? Since you have this sort of faith, you therefore ought to believe that other people also have this kind of faith.
from “How to Establish Normal Interpersonal Relationships” in Sermons and Fellowship on Entry Into Life (I)